As today marks Mother's Day in the UK, it got me thinking... Why do we dedicate an entire day to celebrate mothers when there are so many out there who don't deserve it?
As a society we are conditioned from a young age to honour our mothers; yet no one tells you when it is okay not to honour them. When I was younger I remember being forced to make Mother's Day cards at school and being provided with print outs of "cute" wordings by my teachers to include in the cards. Looking back, I realised how messed up this is. Why are we forcing children to honour their mothers when some simply didn't deserve the gratification.
How many of those children that are forced to show public displays of affection for their mothers are being neglected or even abused by this said "Wonderful Mother".
Where was the recognition for the Grandmothers, Aunties, Sisters or other female role models that were playing a bigger Mother figure than the actual biological one herself? I was 9 years old raising two children, as a result of my Mother parentifying me. Yet, I was meant to celebrate her?
I remember when I started to understand the day more; I would spend hours trying to find the right card. Cards are always filled with "Thanks for being an amazing mum", "You are my best friend", "To the best mum in the world", I don't think I ever found one that didn't fill her head full of undeserved words.
There are so many amazing mothers out there who deserve to be celebrated and screamed about from the rooftops; I am lucky enough to have many of them in my life and it is a privilege to watch them be the most inspirational mothers ever; unfortunately, there are also many out there who don't even deserve the title.
So, I would like to take this moment to celebrate all the caregivers out there who love unconditionally, who make sacrifices, who think they aren't doing good enough, who constantly worry they are going to fail, who go without so their children can have it all. You are doing amazing and you deserve this day! It takes a lot more than just bringing someone into this world to be called a mother.
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