Just a little rant....

Comments like this are exactly why raising awareness of narcissistic abuse is so important.

Raising awareness about narcissistic abuse is essential because many people are still unaware of its existence and impact. Narcissistic abuse involves manipulative tactics and emotional harm inflicted by individuals with narcissistic traits, often leaving deep psychological scars. When people make dismissive comments, they underscore the necessity of educating others about this type of abuse. Awareness can lead to better support systems, understanding, and recognition of the signs, ultimately helping victims find validation and healing.

People need to understand that not every parent deserves respect.

The societal norm often suggests that all parents deserve respect simply because they are parents. However, respect should be earned through healthy, nurturing, and respectful behaviour. Not all parents fulfil their roles in a loving and supportive manner. Some engage in harmful behaviours, including narcissistic abuse, which can severely affect their children’s mental and emotional well-being. Acknowledging this reality helps dismantle the harmful myth that all parental behaviour should be respected unconditionally.

Why does society insist on trying to find the “good” in our abusers?

Society often romanticises the idea of family and parental relationships, promoting the belief that there is always something redeeming in everyone, even abusers. This inclination can be harmful to victims, as it minimises their experiences and struggles. Insisting on finding the "good" in abusers places undue pressure on victims to overlook or excuse their suffering, hindering their ability to address the abuse and heal from it.

It completely invalidates and dismisses what we are expressing and trying to heal from.

When people dismiss or downplay the experiences of those who have suffered narcissistic abuse, they invalidate the victims' feelings and experiences. This can be incredibly damaging, as it not only undermines the victim's reality but also hampers their healing process. Validation is a critical component of healing from abuse; it involves acknowledging the pain and trauma the victim has endured. By insisting on seeing abusers in a positive light, society inadvertently dismisses the legitimate grievances and emotional wounds of the victims, making it harder for them to recover and move forward.